Two words that can be very good–or very bad

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about questions that start with “what if.” My questions go like this: What if my boss hates my idea? What if I look like a fool? What if it doesn’t work out? What if my tie-dye sweatsuit makes me look more like a kindergartner than an...
Dump the Pressure With This One Question

Dump the Pressure With This One Question

Have you ever got jazzed about something, a bold new haircut or fun pair of shoes, and then started to second-guess it immediately?  Last week, that was me.  I had just gotten my nails done for the first time in for-ev-er, and before the paint dried I started debating...
Ever Feel Like a Control Freak?

Ever Feel Like a Control Freak?

Every family has their phrases, and I bet you can think of a few that have followed you from childhood.  For my family, classics include “to each his own” and “it takes all kinds.” Basically, we’re not going to call you stupid but uh… you do dance to the beat of your...
How to Question Your Own Worries

How to Question Your Own Worries

The other day I was talking to a friend about the possibility that she will lose her job when my reaction went from empathy to eye-roll in the amount of time it takes to realize you put salt in your coffee instead of sugar. What generated such callousness?  She told...
This Embarrassing Moment Made Me Worry Less…

This Embarrassing Moment Made Me Worry Less…

SMACK. I hit the ground like a pancake. An older lady walking by came and checked on me. “You took quite a spill!” she said. “I’m okay,” I replied, feeling a little vindicated that even she could tell it was a hard fall. I was on my morning run, doing my usual loop....