Prevent spiraling with this thinking shift

I was standing in my kitchen, still in my bathrobe. My fingers were stiff as I typed on my work laptop, and my nose felt cold, like a tell-tale winter sign to head inside. Except I already was.  I had moved into my new house just a week before and had already called a...

Open this for a feel-good

I feel like we all need a pick-me-up these days, so let’s play a game. Think of someone you love. It could be a partner or good friend or beloved pet.  Now imagine what life would be like if you had never found them.  You would be in a different place in your life,...

Identifying our own stories

I have to tell you about this terribly annoying thing my cat Pico does. Yes, the one that ran into the coffee table. (No, still not the same…) Every day, when it’s time to eat, he pulls his perfectly good food out of his bowl. Every day, I’m annoyed that there’s dried...

One trick to keep an open mind

As I took a sip of the soup, my lips barely grazed the spoon, I tried to see if anyone was watching me.  I was visiting Russia as part of a college study abroad program (privet!), and the hotel served us Borscht. For breakfast. Soup or not, beets just were not my...

Keeping habits connected to bigger goals

“Noooooo!” That’s what I said when I realized that my Apple watch was dead… and I didn’t have a charger with me. It meant a day of flicking my wrist for the time or weather, only to be met with a tan line. It also meant no step counter. While it’s been a minute since...

The one law of economics affecting your goals

It’s peach season, and I’m obsessed. I’m the person who buys a box of peaches at the farmer’s market and eats one before she leaves, doing a funny half-squat move so that the juice doesn’t drip all over. I was peeling some of my peaches for cobbler (I prefer mine au...