Two words that can be very good–or very bad

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about questions that start with “what if.” My questions go like this: What if my boss hates my idea? What if I look like a fool? What if it doesn’t work out? What if my tie-dye sweatsuit makes me look more like a kindergartner than an...

I never questioned it

It was several years ago now, lunchtime in the office kitchen. I was eating a baked potato and veggie patty, my go-to “what combination of random food items in the house could pass as a meal?” option. I mentioned my mom’s upcoming visit to a coworker and she asked if...

What to do if the grass really is greener

I’m a sucker for a farmers market. Fresh veggies, baked treats, and all the local, organic, “I made this with my own two hands” products you can handle.  I always get flowers. I don’t care much about the type, I just want something colorful and fresh.  Without fail, I...

The decision-making trick I used last night

Picture the scene: A woman comes out of her closet holding two dresses. She asks her boyfriend, “which do you like better, the black or the red?” He replies, “the red.” Now you know, you just know, that she’s going to wear the black. Because it was never about the...

My pattern was obvious–is yours?

There I was, stuck outside the gym at 5:30am in the morning, watching the class I was supposed to take through the window. Why was I watching kettlebell swings instead of doing some myself? When I heated the car that morning I neglected to hit the defrost button. This...

One shift to make hard lessons more manageable

A couple of months ago, while playing with my cat Pico, I accidentally scarred him for life.  He loves to play more than any cat I know, and we were doing our usual routine where he sprints around chasing a string toy and zooming through his cat tunnel.  The only...