My boyfriend and I wanted to do a hike the other day. As the master planner, selecting a suitable option fell to me.

Normally I love these kinds of research tasks, combing through Yelp reviews and carefully plotting along Google Maps. (Just me?)

If you need a rec, I got you.

This time though, I didn’t want to plan it. I didn’t have the energy to go into full internet sleuth mode.

“But you’re so good at it!”

I’ve heard it a million times, and it can seem like a compelling argument, but it’s not the only one.

Just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean you have to do it.

I feel this particularly as a woman. Many of us grow up babysitting the neighbors and helping in the kitchen, so when it comes to household responsibilities, it can seem like we’re just “good at it.”

It feels easier for us to just [make the salad/sort the laundry/plan the team outing] ourselves. Sometimes it really is less work, though often it’s for a simple reason: we have more practice.

Whether it be poetry or pottery or predictive analysis, your skills and talents don’t make you obligated to take on any project.

You can take a break, even, and perhaps especially, if you’re good at it.

Oh, and I almost forgot. My boyfriend found the perfect hike.

To being better without carrying the team,